As a novice healer I immediately faced a very difficult and at the same time very interesting case.
A dear friend was complaining on a regular basis about her 3 year old daughter. The little girl, Wanda just started to attend kindergarten, but she was sick most of the time and so, they were going from one doctor to another most of the time. She had a constant face-forehead cavity inflammation, reflux, throwing up often (after temper tantrums), and she barely ate, was very picky and would only accept few kinds of foods. In her kindergarten she would eat nothing. But for all of this, she looked well fed. Often, she had purulent ingrown toe nails and her labia (lips) of her vagina would fuse. She slept badly and was psychologically unstable. She chew her nails since she her teeth have come out. Could not take her anywhere because she would have temper tantrums and throw herself down the floor when things did not happen as she thought they should or wanted to, which for anyone else looked like a circus. She was forceful, stubborn, hard-to-handle child. I was quiet clear that in big part, the mother was at fault for this situation existing. This was the result of raising a child without any knowledge about how to do it, without discipline and the mishandling of the situation. The child became the leader and the mother was always trying to accommodate the child (make her happy) even when the child should of have been reprimanded and punished. One more important fact is that the mother was raising the child without a father and she wanted to give everything to the child to make up for this. She did not realize that by doing this, she achieved the exact opposite; she was actually harming the child! Both mother and child were suffering. I really wanted to help them. I couldn’t do it! Obviously this was a karmic situation (for some reason they have to suffer this through together without help) and I could only interfere and help if the dowsing rod told me that I am allowed to. I never had any patients whom I could not help with a karmic suffering. But, at this time I was not allowed to help this 3 year old girl.
A year has passed and the situation was the same, so I asked again if I am allowed to treat. I am also very stubborn and it paid off as this time I was allowed!
Since this was a very difficult child, a trick had to be used to get her to allow the treatment. The situation was helped by the fact that the mother had some problems that I had to treat, so if she (the child) liked this “game” perhaps I could treat her too. This was the plan. I started with Reflexology, to relax the mother and to show something interesting to the child. This is when I really seen what the problem is, how things go. All of the above mentioned behavioural problems the child had was not all been known to me at this time. The situation was much worse than I have thought. I was also a single mother, had many difficult moments and seen a lot too around me but nothing like this, ever!
The child put on the gloves from the first moment and introduced herself. The match has started! She declared from the start that I will not be treating her. Probably the mother has mentioned that I will be coming to heal. I reassured her that I have come to treat her mother and her. This has pacified her, but at the same time bothered her a bit as she was ignored and was not the center of attention. All kinds of toys and activity have been prepared for her so we could start the treatment of the mother. As soon as we started the session, she sat in her mother’s lap and started to move and throw herself around until she started kicking her mother’s chin. This was too much was asked to get off. Then she was promised candy, chocolate or bubble gum which were in her purse, so was asked to go get it. The first tantrum started! She can’t do that, the mother has to get up and get it for her. The point was to stop whatever program the mother was doing for herself. Screaming, crying, tantrums, more promises of gifts from the mother and then she brought over the bag. Now started the loud eating, chewing and back in the mother’s lap, fidgeting, interfering with the treatment. So much for relaxing….
During all of this, the child’s eye like a CT scanner was scanning me and sizing me up, how I react and appreciate this performance. It was very difficult, but I didn’t even blink. I was determined not to let her see my real feelings. I was trying to mask my negative radiance, not to let her think I was unfriendly, but with my facial muscles trying to show a little more positive than neutrality. Show a nice but not too nice of a face to her, to show her I am not buying her performance. It was very difficult.
Second act; she is thirsty, but she can’t reach so the mother should get up, then she wanted the chair I was sitting on, and so on and so forth. I can’t remember the rest, but there was plenty; crying, screaming, tantrums; punishment, but after 3 minutes, caressing and consoling…. It was horrible to watch that the mother was futile in trying the solve the problem with kindness and gentle words, then the frivolous punishment and it’s immediate regret. With this strengthening the child’s extreme behaviour. “this is how I need to act to get what I want and be forgiven and still loved by mom” None of her acts have any consequence and punishment. The complete absence of respect and the equal absence of its demand was shocking. The child was the leader and the mother her subject, who was fearful of her not to make her mad and go through another round of tantrums and crying. It was difficult to watch all of this while keeping the perception of calmness. Several times my mind conjured up exorcism movies as I felt like being in one. If I could, I would of have taken the little devil and put her under a cold shower. The only thing I wanted is to get out of there and a bottle of wine that I could open when I got home. I must confess, I gave up as a healer in that moment.
Then, giving up completely for what I have come to achieve, I went to get my jacket and was about to put it on so I could bolt, when the child whispered in the mother’s ear that she like to be held by me. I should pick her up! Oh my, I was afraid what is going to happen, just as I was about to leave. I picked her up to say goodbye and the girl hugged me with her two little hands and was squeezing me for a long time, probably minutes. Even the mother was surprised and was dumbfounded about this reaction. I threw out all the rules out the window and started to give her healing Tibetan-Reiki energy wherever I could during this embrace. After this, she asked me to sit down with her and she cuddled in my lap and hugged me. I was holding her for a while there and was treating her with my Tibetan-Reiki energy healing… my heart filling up with love, and all the negative and bad vibes evaporating from me towards this little girl. I was very happy that this happened and I am sure that this happened for a reason the way it did and I have realized something that is very difficult to write down. We are inadequate to understand many things, so we should not be judging, but helping. I felt as she was holding me and was getting help through me from above for her numerous problems, as if she knew what is happening, and that she needs this. For sure she was not consciously aware of this, but felt it instinctively that this is good! For some reason these two have a task to fulfill with each other and they must live and suffer it through. It was heart breaking to see them like this, but I was very proud and happy that I could help them a little.
I visited them 3 more times, 2 of which was done in a good atmosphere and was almost able to give a completely proper Tibetan-Reiki healing treatment on Wanda. This was only about 10 minutes 3 times.
Wanda’s face-forehead cavity inflammation and other inflammations and fusion has healed, she has not thrown up and she eat better and was calmer!
Unfortunately I had to leave and was not able to keep treating her. The mother wrote me an email about 4 months later that the problems are coming back and no one can help them. I tried to also give some parenting advice, shed light on how damaging her treatment of the child is, that she has to be tougher, and won’t be a better mother by letting her child get everything she wants. There was no use, the mother didn’t even understand what I was talking about, so I gave up on the advice. Whenever I am in town I visit them and give my Tibetan Reiki energies to help.